“I contacted Michael as I was struggling to control my emotions and manage my family effectively. My children were suffering as a result and I desperately wanted to be the mother they so deserved. Michael helped me to see that I could only help my children if I first learnt to love and care for myself. He listened to the child within me who so desperately needed to be heard and so the adult in me could step up and take her place as mother. His gentle guidance has helped me to get to where I am now and I am so grateful. He saved me and my family.”
Coaching for Parents
What is coaching really about?
The intention behind coaching is to help an individual or group identify where they are and stimulate movement to where they want to be.
The process of coaching is to:
- conduct a purposeful conversation focused on one or more challenges or outcomes
- stimulate your personal insights from my questions rather than offering answers or solutions
“Overwhelmed and exhausted, I approached Michael for help with becoming ‘a better parent’. This has not been a journey of ‘self improvement’ per se, rather a journey of ‘self acceptance’. By becoming more loving and accepting of myself, I found within me a well of unconditional love and acceptance from which I can nourish the high demands of my family, without feeling completely empty and depleted myself. It is startling too how much my marriage has also improved as a result. Thank you Michael. I cannot recommend your work more highly.”
Katy, Mother & Musician
What Michael offers
Michael is the in-house APUK coach and director, a father of 4, a grandfather and compassionate supporter of all parents. He works with mothers, fathers and couples.
Do you trust your instincts about what’s right for your children or are you beset by self-doubt when offered ‘well-intentioned’ advice from relatives, friends or Google? And do you, as a consequence, experience anxiety, frustration and self-criticism?
Do you feel overwhelmed and find yourself in a cycle of reacting in a negative or harmful way to your children and then feel guilty that you’ve done so?
Are you struggling to self-care in the context of a busy and demanding family life? The ‘What about me? voice.
These are common and normal responses to being a parent and as a qualified life coach and Attachment Parenting UK Director I will help you engage more fully, effectively and responsibly in your children’s lives. Through one-to-one professional coaching I will support you to regain and maintain your mental and emotional well-being so that you can maximise your capacity to protect, love and care for your children, and in so doing, you will bring out the best in them which they will demonstrate through their behaviour.
My approach is to point you towards the understanding that our children have an internal state of pure mental health and well-being that contains wisdom and common sense allowing them to function in a healthy way, no matter how they are behaving. From this understanding you can help your children tap into their innate health by creating an environment of love, care, respect and lightheartedness. I also help to remind us that when our children act out, they act out of insecurity and we need to help them regain their security.
I emphasize what is right with you, not what is wrong with you.
I point you in the direction of the importance of becoming aware of your moods in the moment enabling you, if necessary, to step back and quiet the mind so you will know how to respond appropriately to your child – so that you can listen to your heart.
At the core of my coaching is respect for the child’s experiences and an understanding that they respond well when there is a good feeling in a relationship. I also trust in the child’s ability to see what’s in their best interests and to do what’s best for themselves and others.